Couple Tries An Open Relationship For A Month

Couple Tries An Open Relationship For A Month Kissing

– Well, I don’t think I’m having sex tonight. I mean, I’m not, I’m not going to, I think I would turn it down. – [Leeann] You think you would? – Yes, I would, I would. – Let’s just go for it and eat the whole apple– – Dick. – Of life, the whole dick of life. – Right. – Eat it, deep throat it. – We met at an audition. Then we were on a cruise ship for five months, so basically, we started a relationship on a really long honeymoon. I think it’s really rare when you’re trying to focus on making people laugh a lot for your career that someone else really makes you genuinely laugh very often. – I would say that’s my big one too, you make me laugh a lot.

I realized that I don’t wanna put all my emotional baggage, whatever, onto you. If I spark with someone, I wanna be able to pursue that without feeling guilty. Trusting you to go out and be intimate with somebody else and still wanna come back feels like a deeper level of intimacy. – Use protection. You’ve kind of said, “Don’t fall in love.” But I’m not sure if that’s a ground rule. – (laughs) I know, right? You can’t stop that. – I think we need to tell each other every time we go on a date.

It shouldn’t conflict with our own dating. – Oh yeah. – [JD] We have a date night. – Monday night. What if you find someone you wanna date for a while? – (sighs) I don’t know. – [Leeann] I don’t know either. – Feel like I would, I feel like that’s just something we have to talk about. I don’t want you to be unhappy. – I hope you don’t find someone you like better, but I also hope that my emotional needs don’t get in the way of you being able to fully live and realize yours. ‘Cause we’re thinking about marriage, even, and forever is a long time. – Do you think this going to improve our relationship or tear us apart? – Improve, I hope. – All right, so I’ve been talking to somebody on OkCupid, I just don’t know what to do now. This reminds me of middle school, when it’s like, you’re just talking to strangers on AOL Instant Messenger. – JD is a little bit more excited to go on dates.

I guess I gotta get out there. He’s got a date for this weekend already. And I did feel kind of a stab of jealousy. – [JD] Leeann and I are starting an open relationship. What do you think about that? – Whatever makes you guys happy. – I got at least three people I’m talking to and I’ve already got a date for Sunday night. I almost feel guilty going on a date with somebody who’s not Leeann.

It’s kind of exciting. I’m just worried that Leeann’s doing this to overcome her own insecurities or anxieties. I want this to be something that’s fun, that we’re doing kind of together. My first date. – [Leeann] Are you excited?

You don’t seem excited. – Is trepidation the right word? – [Leeann] We haven’t talked about having sex with other people. – I think I would turn it down. – [Leeann] You think you would? – Yes, I would, I would, I would. – [Leeann] Hey, you don’t yell at the camera. I don’t think either of us got into this because we’re sexually unsatisfied. At least I’m not. Oh (sighs) you shrugged. – I mean, whatever, sex is– – It wasn’t just to have sex, is what I was saying. – Right, absolutely. – JD has a date tonight. I don’t know, I don’t know how I feel about it.

I’m supposed to be getting dates for myself and instead, I’m inviting my friends to hang out more. – JD just came back from his date. – My first date was very neutral. There wasn’t a spark or whatever, a connection that I felt. – I realized that that’s, I think, what I was hoping would happen. It’s a reality that attraction occurs, and people’ve been pretending like it doesn’t for a long time. Sex isn’t that huge of a part of a relationship. – I think a lot of people would disagree with you. – It is important, but it’s just a small part of life. – You’re speaking, now, how you wanna be. – Yeah, that’s how you manifest that shit. – Got a date on Friday with a guy from OkCupid.

I’m feeling good about this one. Leeann’s finally getting her toes wet, I guess, and I don’t know, she seems pretty excited about it, so that makes me happy. Leeann has a date next week on Wednesday. Tell me about your date. She has good grammar.

It’s gonna be fun. – I have a date tonight. – [Leeann] I know. – I’m pretty excited. – [Leeann] Are you? You’re hiding in pillows right now. – The first one, I kind of was just jumping into it ’cause I was like, “Oh, gotta go on a date with somebody.” This one, I feel a little bit more excited about. These are the good blue jeans, right? – [Leeann] No, those are those weird blue jeans you have where the crotch is all rubbed out. – I hope it doesn’t go really well where it’s like we wanna hang out for a long time and then it’s like, Oh man, I have to wake up in four hours. – [Leeann] So you’re hoping your date doesn’t go well? – No, wait.

How do you feel about this? – I keep waiting for bad feelings to start bubbling up, and for me to start to get worried, to get jealous, to get insecure, and I just don’t feel that way. I just dropped JD off on his date. That jealousy that I was talking about not feeling? It hit me. Just this feeling of you’re not supposed to have romantic fun without me.

Is it possible to be open and happy? – We were just talking nonstop and really getting along. And we ended up kissing at the end of the night. – I was envious, jealous. Going on a date tonight. No matter what happens, this will be an adventure I and JD had.

Finally went on one, kind of because I was like, “Well, if he is, I gotta go.” And we didn’t have a sexual spark, at least for me, but she was so smart and so kind. We talked for five hours. I connected with her and I wanna talk to her more, she doesn’t actually live here, so. I didn’t wanna get sexual with her. I just don’t know that I’m interested in dating someone else.

I do like the idea, if I could, if I spark with someone, that’d be great, but I don’t wanna put on my plate trying to find people to spark with. Were you hoping I’d have a sexier time? – I don’t know, I guess I was worried you’d come home and just be like, “Never again.” She went on that first date, I felt, that was kind of the major sense of relief for me, where I was just like, “Okay, it’s not just me going on dates. It’s not something she’s doing for me. This is something that we can both explore.” – I had a good time.

I don’t really wanna go pursue others. I feel like you wish that I was kind of more into being promiscuous with others because you wanna be. – I have this fear that you’re just doing all of this for me. And I don’t like that idea. – Why is that a bad idea? Why can’t I do something for you? – But you’re saying it’s true? – No. – Okay. – When I say something like, Hey, I’m feeling insecure about that, JD just hears me, holds me a little closer, and pays a little more attention.

It feels like we’ve actually been just more affectionate. – I love you. – I love you. (both laugh) I’m looking for evidence that this is the wrong way to go. It doesn’t feel wrong. I feel like I’m falling more in love with JD. We’re just having easier days.

When we are together, it’s better. – We keep communicating and really just sharing and it somehow has made us even closer. My first second date in an open relationship. We’ve been texting all week. – Told JD that he’s allowed to do whatever he wants with his date. – I don’t expect things to get hot and heavy. – JD, if I was gonna be gone, he was like, “I’m gonna bring a date over to our place to watch TV,” which everybody knows is code for touch each other’s parts. Man, I don’t want him doing it in my bed. So I told JD, I was like, “I’d love it if we could just make our place off limits.” And he was like, “Okay.” – We went on the second date yesterday.

We went and got some pizza and then had some coffee. I don’t what it is I’m trying to get out of it, necessarily. Where is this gonna lead? ‘Cause I went on two dates now, and it’s like, we’ll probably go on a third date, and it’s just like, well, where’s this gonna go to? – Do you know what you want? – No idea. – Doesn’t seem like either of us are that super enthusiastic about it. – But I still like the idea of being open about it and welcoming a positive experience. – The idea that we’re just open to love as it comes, that’s great. – I’m about to go on date number three with this guy.

It’s gotten to the point where it’s date three, I’m like, “Well, what does short term dating mean? What are his expectations?” Just talked and enjoyed each other’s company. I don’t know what’s gonna happen. Did you go on any dates since your last one? – Going out to a wedding by myself tomorrow. – Yeah, you gonna pick someone up? – I go by myself and I kind of have my eye open.

– Well, I don’t think I’m having sex tonight. I mean, I’m not, I’m not going to, I think I would turn it down. – [Leeann] You think you would? – Yes, I would, I would. – Let’s just go for it and eat the whole apple– – Dick. – Of life, the whole dick of life. – Right. – Eat it, deep throat it. – We met at an audition. Then we were on a cruise ship for five months, so basically, we started a relationship on a really long honeymoon. I think it’s really rare when you’re trying to focus on making people laugh a lot for your career that someone else really makes you genuinely laugh very often. – I would say that’s my big one too, you make me laugh a lot.

I realized that I don’t wanna put all my emotional baggage, whatever, onto you. If I spark with someone, I wanna be able to pursue that without feeling guilty. Trusting you to go out and be intimate with somebody else and still wanna come back feels like a deeper level of intimacy. – Use protection. You’ve kind of said, “Don’t fall in love.” But I’m not sure if that’s a ground rule. – (laughs) I know, right? You can’t stop that. – I think we need to tell each other every time we go on a date.

Couple Tries An Open Relationship For A Month Date

It shouldn’t conflict with our own dating. – Oh yeah. – [JD] We have a date night. – Monday night. What if you find someone you wanna date for a while? – (sighs) I don’t know. – [Leeann] I don’t know either. – Feel like I would, I feel like that’s just something we have to talk about. I don’t want you to be unhappy. – I hope you don’t find someone you like better, but I also hope that my emotional needs don’t get in the way of you being able to fully live and realize yours. ‘Cause we’re thinking about marriage, even, and forever is a long time. – Do you think this going to improve our relationship or tear us apart? – Improve, I hope. – All right, so I’ve been talking to somebody on OkCupid, I just don’t know what to do now. This reminds me of middle school, when it’s like, you’re just talking to strangers on AOL Instant Messenger. – JD is a little bit more excited to go on dates.

I guess I gotta get out there. He’s got a date for this weekend already. And I did feel kind of a stab of jealousy. – [JD] Leeann and I are starting an open relationship. What do you think about that? – Whatever makes you guys happy. – I got at least three people I’m talking to and I’ve already got a date for Sunday night. I almost feel guilty going on a date with somebody who’s not Leeann.

It’s kind of exciting. I’m just worried that Leeann’s doing this to overcome her own insecurities or anxieties. I want this to be something that’s fun, that we’re doing kind of together. My first date. – [Leeann] Are you excited?

You don’t seem excited. – Is trepidation the right word? – [Leeann] We haven’t talked about having sex with other people. – I think I would turn it down. – [Leeann] You think you would? – Yes, I would, I would, I would. – [Leeann] Hey, you don’t yell at the camera. I don’t think either of us got into this because we’re sexually unsatisfied. At least I’m not. Oh (sighs) you shrugged. – I mean, whatever, sex is– – It wasn’t just to have sex, is what I was saying. – Right, absolutely. – JD has a date tonight. I don’t know, I don’t know how I feel about it.

I’m supposed to be getting dates for myself and instead, I’m inviting my friends to hang out more. – JD just came back from his date. – My first date was very neutral. There wasn’t a spark or whatever, a connection that I felt. – I realized that that’s, I think, what I was hoping would happen. It’s a reality that attraction occurs, and people’ve been pretending like it doesn’t for a long time. Sex isn’t that huge of a part of a relationship. – I think a lot of people would disagree with you. – It is important, but it’s just a small part of life. – You’re speaking, now, how you wanna be. – Yeah, that’s how you manifest that shit. – Got a date on Friday with a guy from OkCupid.

I’m feeling good about this one. Leeann’s finally getting her toes wet, I guess, and I don’t know, she seems pretty excited about it, so that makes me happy. Leeann has a date next week on Wednesday. Tell me about your date. She has good grammar.

It’s gonna be fun. – I have a date tonight. – [Leeann] I know. – I’m pretty excited. – [Leeann] Are you? You’re hiding in pillows right now. – The first one, I kind of was just jumping into it ’cause I was like, “Oh, gotta go on a date with somebody.” This one, I feel a little bit more excited about. These are the good blue jeans, right? – [Leeann] No, those are those weird blue jeans you have where the crotch is all rubbed out. – I hope it doesn’t go really well where it’s like we wanna hang out for a long time and then it’s like, Oh man, I have to wake up in four hours. – [Leeann] So you’re hoping your date doesn’t go well? – No, wait.

How do you feel about this? – I keep waiting for bad feelings to start bubbling up, and for me to start to get worried, to get jealous, to get insecure, and I just don’t feel that way. I just dropped JD off on his date. That jealousy that I was talking about not feeling? It hit me. Just this feeling of you’re not supposed to have romantic fun without me.

Is it possible to be open and happy? – We were just talking nonstop and really getting along. And we ended up kissing at the end of the night. – I was envious, jealous. Going on a date tonight. No matter what happens, this will be an adventure I and JD had.

Finally went on one, kind of because I was like, “Well, if he is, I gotta go.” And we didn’t have a sexual spark, at least for me, but she was so smart and so kind. We talked for five hours. I connected with her and I wanna talk to her more, she doesn’t actually live here, so. I didn’t wanna get sexual with her. I just don’t know that I’m interested in dating someone else.

I do like the idea, if I could, if I spark with someone, that’d be great, but I don’t wanna put on my plate trying to find people to spark with. Were you hoping I’d have a sexier time? – I don’t know, I guess I was worried you’d come home and just be like, “Never again.” She went on that first date, I felt, that was kind of the major sense of relief for me, where I was just like, “Okay, it’s not just me going on dates. It’s not something she’s doing for me. This is something that we can both explore.” – I had a good time.

I don’t really wanna go pursue others. I feel like you wish that I was kind of more into being promiscuous with others because you wanna be. – I have this fear that you’re just doing all of this for me. And I don’t like that idea. – Why is that a bad idea? Why can’t I do something for you? – But you’re saying it’s true? – No. – Okay. – When I say something like, Hey, I’m feeling insecure about that, JD just hears me, holds me a little closer, and pays a little more attention.

It feels like we’ve actually been just more affectionate. – I love you. – I love you. (both laugh) I’m looking for evidence that this is the wrong way to go. It doesn’t feel wrong. I feel like I’m falling more in love with JD. We’re just having easier days.

When we are together, it’s better. – We keep communicating and really just sharing and it somehow has made us even closer. My first second date in an open relationship. We’ve been texting all week. – Told JD that he’s allowed to do whatever he wants with his date. – I don’t expect things to get hot and heavy. – JD, if I was gonna be gone, he was like, “I’m gonna bring a date over to our place to watch TV,” which everybody knows is code for touch each other’s parts. Man, I don’t want him doing it in my bed. So I told JD, I was like, “I’d love it if we could just make our place off limits.” And he was like, “Okay.” – We went on the second date yesterday.

We went and got some pizza and then had some coffee. I don’t what it is I’m trying to get out of it, necessarily. Where is this gonna lead? ‘Cause I went on two dates now, and it’s like, we’ll probably go on a third date, and it’s just like, well, where’s this gonna go to? – Do you know what you want? – No idea. – Doesn’t seem like either of us are that super enthusiastic about it. – But I still like the idea of being open about it and welcoming a positive experience. – The idea that we’re just open to love as it comes, that’s great. – I’m about to go on date number three with this guy.

It’s gotten to the point where it’s date three, I’m like, “Well, what does short term dating mean? What are his expectations?” Just talked and enjoyed each other’s company. I don’t know what’s gonna happen. Did you go on any dates since your last one? – Going out to a wedding by myself tomorrow. – Yeah, you gonna pick someone up? – I go by myself and I kind of have my eye open.

And I was dancing and thought, well, is it gonna happen? And no. It was like, I could do this, I just don’t need to. – I don’t know, we’re coming to the end of this month long journey. It’s not, really not that exciting anymore. – I feel like my partner is more attentive and more loving and more interested in me, sexually and otherwise. Experiment a success, I guess.

I’ve been getting out more, meeting new people. This is exactly the opposite of what I feel like I was taught is safe. – I think we’re both pretty content with how things turned out and how things are going. I definitely don’t feel like I’m seeking too much out anymore.

After the first couple weeks and going, each of us went on a date. I went on a few dates. And it kind of just lost, it kind of just lost its– – I feel like we lost, it was frenzy and trepidation. – I feel like we’ve both kind of come to this comfortable position of, yeah, it’s great, we’ll stay in an open relationship, but we’re not gonna actively seek out dates.

I just keep falling more in love with you. – I think jealousy comes from low self-esteem. And I feel like I have higher self-esteem now. – You just have to communicate and respect your partner and be good to other people. – I just trusted you to be there on this adventure with me. So even though it was scary, I was like, “We’ll come out the other side okay.” And we did, we came out stronger.

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